Some Ideas for Dealing with Issues at School
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We've already explored some common social/emotional issues that may impede students' academic performance. But what if the issue may not be stemming from your child?
Parent-Teacher Conferences
Never be afraid to be an advocate for your child. If you have questions about her education, or you don't feel he is being challenged enough, make that appointment and go talk to the teacher. Author Christopher Taibbi offers more advice.
In a 2011 study of parents who advocated for their gifted students (Duquette et. al.), one mother suggested these tips:
1. Be well informed;
2. Stay focused on your objectives;
3. Have a bulleted summary of needs or issues to give to the teacher;
4. Have copies of documents and policies available;
5. Smile, appear calm, and repeat any helpful information or tips that were provided.
But I Don't Want to Be the Bad Guy
Sometimes, parents are nervous about making waves at school, or being seen as bragging about their student's abilities. It's not bragging if it's a legitimate concern. Saying that your child reads at the fifth grade level in the first grade, for example, is simply stating a fact when you are working with the teacher to create an appropriate educational plan for your son. If you're nervous about an upcoming conference, write down your questions and concerns in advance, and don't be afraid to stand up for your child's needs. At the end of the day, what's more important -- that you come off as a little pushy, or that your child gets the education she deserves?
They're Still Not Listening
Establishing a positive, supportive relationship with your child's teacher at the beginning of the school year is ideal. Think of the situation as one of partnership, rather than adversary. Chance are, your child's teacher really does want to do right by your daughter, and is willing to work with you to make it happen. If, after a parent conference, you still feel like you child's needs are not being met, don't be afraid to go up the chain of command. Consider these qualities of effective teachers, and schedule a meeting with the counselor, gifted and talented administrator or principal. Approach the meeting with a positive outlook, and be prepared with information and questions.
Parent-Teacher Conferences
Never be afraid to be an advocate for your child. If you have questions about her education, or you don't feel he is being challenged enough, make that appointment and go talk to the teacher. Author Christopher Taibbi offers more advice.
In a 2011 study of parents who advocated for their gifted students (Duquette et. al.), one mother suggested these tips:
1. Be well informed;
2. Stay focused on your objectives;
3. Have a bulleted summary of needs or issues to give to the teacher;
4. Have copies of documents and policies available;
5. Smile, appear calm, and repeat any helpful information or tips that were provided.
But I Don't Want to Be the Bad Guy
Sometimes, parents are nervous about making waves at school, or being seen as bragging about their student's abilities. It's not bragging if it's a legitimate concern. Saying that your child reads at the fifth grade level in the first grade, for example, is simply stating a fact when you are working with the teacher to create an appropriate educational plan for your son. If you're nervous about an upcoming conference, write down your questions and concerns in advance, and don't be afraid to stand up for your child's needs. At the end of the day, what's more important -- that you come off as a little pushy, or that your child gets the education she deserves?
They're Still Not Listening
Establishing a positive, supportive relationship with your child's teacher at the beginning of the school year is ideal. Think of the situation as one of partnership, rather than adversary. Chance are, your child's teacher really does want to do right by your daughter, and is willing to work with you to make it happen. If, after a parent conference, you still feel like you child's needs are not being met, don't be afraid to go up the chain of command. Consider these qualities of effective teachers, and schedule a meeting with the counselor, gifted and talented administrator or principal. Approach the meeting with a positive outlook, and be prepared with information and questions.
"Be prepared, expect bureaucracy. Don't give up. Bring a 'face' to the situation. Be prepared to 'fight'" (Duquette et. al., 2011, p. 7).